After-Death Communications Helps the Bereaved
After-death communications (ADC) have been one way to explore what it is like after death. It has also helped the bereaved cope with their loss. Nowhere is this therapeutic aspect of ADC more evident than in experiences parents have with their deceased children. In their book, Hello from Heaven! (Bantam Books) Judy & Bill Guggenheim present hundreds of firsthand accounts of people (including many A.R.E. members) who have been directly contacted by a deceased relative, including many from deceased children.
Communication comes in many forms. Sensing the presence of the child is the most common. Though most often felt during the days immediately after a death, parents may sense their child's presence for months, and even years, later. Some people hear an external voice, as if a living person were speaking to them. The majority of communications, however, are by telepathy--the parent mentally hears voice of the child. The parent may smell flowers (especially roses), baby powders, favorite foods, as well as the child's own personal fragrance (e.g. the hair). Some feel their childs touch, on a hand, or a shoulder, as if for comfort and reassurance. Some feel a tap, a pat, a caress, a stroke, a kiss, or even a hug, all forms of affection, nurturing, and love. There are a wide range of visual appearances, from a "transparent mist" to an "absolutely solid" apparition. Communications sometimes occur upon falling asleep, waking up, meditating, or praying. Communication in dreams is typical and the parent usually experiences having an actual visit with the child.
The Guggenheims research suggests that the purpose of these visits by deceased children is to offer comfort, reassurance, and hope to their parents, siblings, other family members, and friends. They want their kin to know they're still alive, and that they'll have a reunion with them when it's their time to leave this physical life on earth. Here are some of the children's most frequent messages, whether expressed verbally or non-verbally:
"I'm okay...I'm fine...Everything is okay...Don't worry about me...Don't grieve for me...Please let go...I'm happy...Everything will be all right...Pray for me...Please forgive...Thank you...I'll always be there for you...I'm watching over you...I'll see you again...I love you...Goodbye...
Nearly all ADCs are positive, joyful, and uplifting experiences which accelerate emotional healing. They urge parents to trust their own experiences and accept them. At the very least, these communications are real for the parents. For many parents, an ADC from their deceased child is considered a sacred and profound experience to be cherished for a lifetime!
The Guggenheims argue that ADCs deserve the same public awareness and acceptance that near-death experiences have already received. The ADCs usually expand one's understanding of life, and offer a spiritual awareness of life after death. They consistently deliver one message: "Love is eternal and continues after death."